How to Be Nice

How to Be Nice

You've been told to be nice since you were a child, but what exactly does it mean to not be mean? "Nice" is a vague term to put it. If your parents never gave a definition. Were your parents nice to you? Being nice to people, especially your friends, can pay off big time.
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Smile. A smile will let people know that you are pleasant and inviting. If you smile at someone, look them in the eye. For the most part, if you smile at someone, they won't do anything but smile back. If they don't, then maybe they are just having a bad day. It is up to you to set the mood of the encounter. Make it happy by being the first to smile. Normally, making faces or moody looks at someone is not nice.
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Say hola. When you're walking past someone, even a stranger, try to acknowledge their presence with simple "hello" or "hi" or even just a wave or a nod in their direction. Adding the smile to this can make it all the more friendly. Other parents always like kids that say hello and how are you.
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Ask people how they are doing. Take the time to ask someone how things are going in their lives, without being nosy or intrusive. If they seem resistant to talking, just let them know that you're always around to talk to, and that you want them to be alright.
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Be a good listener. Listen when other people are talking to you. It isn't nice to just ignore other peoples' opinions and stories. If you find that someone is becoming rude or pushy, acknowledge their opinion, issue a compliment ("Having your own set of values and beliefs is pretty admirable") and excuse yourself politely ("I'm sorry, I've got to go get the groceries so I can meet my husband/wife when they get home.").
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Be courteous. Always say "please," "thank you" and "you're welcome." You can also address people by sir or ma'am, depending on the occasion. Be patient, observant, and considerate. Treat people with respect. Even if you don't particularly like someone at first, they could end up being a really interesting and kind person. Don't forget "Excuse me" instead of "MOVE!". Remember: People aren't dogs or the ground you spit on.
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Be positive. Don't be negative or critical. Keep looking for the positive in any given situation.Cheer them up.
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Be humble. The key to being nice is remembering that you are not "better" than someone else. You're an individual, but everybody has their struggles, and being nice to one another makes life better for everyone.
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Offer to help. If you see someone struggling or doing anything, offer to help, even doing something as simple as carrying a bag of groceries, or hold the door for someone. You can also be nice to the community and the world by volunteering.
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Be sincere. Don't be nice as a means to an end. If you just want to be nice so that you can gain preferential treatment, it's quite the opposite of being nice-it's deceptive, shallow and cruel. Be nice because you want to look back on your life and know that you were a nice person, no matter what.
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Don't talk about other people. Try to be nice to everyone and don't pick favorites. Also, don't be two-faced or talk about people who trust you.
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Always try to make friends that are nice. If you make friends who are rude, that would make you look rude because you associate yourself with rudeness. If you have friends that are like you, your life will be much better.
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Always remember the Golden Rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated. Even though some people may not be nice to you at first, they will the more they get to know you.
If you're still attending school you must make sure to steer clear of drama/gossip. If someone decides to randomly gossip to you,"Hey did you hear what Sue said about Mary?", simply walk away. Its really that easy.
If you get annoyed by someone try to remember they're probably unaware that they are being annoying. Keep positive.
Assume the best about people. Most people don't mean to insult or offend others most of the time. Unless it's overt, assume the slight was accidental.
Bad language, gossiping, whining, selfishness and greediness don't mix with being nice.
Hold the door open for someone who is approaching the door the same time you are. Allow them to go in ahead of you. Do the same if you are leaving a store, hold the door open wide, and allow whoever is leaving to leave before you.
If you are sitting, and you see an older, pregnant, or ill person standing, offer them your seat if there are no other free seats close by.
Remember using vulgar language won't make a very good impression
Be courteous.
If you say the words "no offense" before pointing out something to someone it's most likely rude or offensive.
If you're a guy it may be a bit awkward to smile, especially at other male strangers. If that is the case, then simply ofter a casual "alright?", "hi" or "how's it going?". It works just as well as a smile, and can be more comfortable.
If you find yourself thinking poorly about someone, don't worry; you're not a terrible person because we all do this from time to time. However, try to catch yourself doing it, and think of something nice about that person instead. It'll help you look at people more positively, and you'll quickly break the habit of seeing the worst in someone.
Don't laugh at other peoples' mistakes and don't point out their faults too harshly. It's okay to joke, of course, but use your common sense; think about what you're about to say, and consider the fact that just because you may not be offended by a certain comment, others could be.
Be optimistic about everything, even when you don't particularly feel like it. Always look on the bright side!
Never underestimate the power of optimism, but at the same time, you can crack a joke in a funny way to make you more likable (ex: that class was so boring) or just something unexpected so long as you counteract it with a lot of positive behavior as well. Funny, I find, is nice.
If you are really struggling with being nice to someone you really don't like, go imagine that person truly hurt or crying. If you think 'serves them right,' you need to think deeper. If you would try to comfort them or save them, that usually changes hate to care.
and you should take care of your friends
If someone/a friend around you is being mean, rude, or using bad language, try to break them of the habit.
If someone that you have been mean to in the past isn't acting nice when you do, then they are still holding on to the past, try to apologize and fix whatever you have done.
Stick up for people who are subject to teasing (eg. people with mental disablities). Even if someone just makes a slight comment, point out that they can't help being different and shouldn't be made fun of. If you do this in a tactful way, people will see you as being nice to people less fortunate, and therefore see you as an all round nice person.
edit Warnings
While being nice, do not be a total pushover. Compromise is good, but expect to be treated fairly. Don't be afraid to stand up for what is right and do not hesitate to defend someone. If you find that you're being considerate of someone's time but they are not being considerate of yours, bow out as respectfully as you can and make yourself scarce.
Members of the opposite sex can sometimes misinterpret niceness as a signal that you're attracted to them, or even as flirting. Learn how to gently and subtly let someone know that you're just being nice, which by the way is not the easiest thing to do, but it will prevent a lot of miscommunication. Do not go over the top with being nice because people will think that you are only doing it for yourself.
You may have heard that "It doesn't matter what someone looks like, but it's what's on the inside that counts". This is partially true, but you only have one chance at meeting someone. If you are barbarous the first time, that is how you'll be known. If you are friendly the first impression, people will know you as nice and sincere.
Remember to stand up for others, and do not gossip about them.


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